Gag Order On The Church For LGBTQ Issues

Do you realize that one of the main reasons people are leaving the Church is related to LGBTQ issues? They are not just leaving. They are leaving with hostility. In the last 5 years alone, another 50+million Americans have gone from having a favorable to unfavorable view of the Church and LGBTQ issues are at the center of this mass exodus. I’m suggesting people put themselves on a personal gag order until they can figure out how to communicate Christ through these issues. (To clarify: I am not talking about churches remaining silent. We should have discussions. I am talking about individuals blasting their opinion before taking the time or care to consider the implications of their thoughts and messages). You decide for yourself, but if you are doing more harm than good, it may be time to rethink your approach. Here are 9 points to help you get there.

1. Stop Talking

Before you talk, listen and when you talk, listen to the response. What can you learn from it? I promise you, none of us have arrived at a perfect opinion of these things. Honestly listen to people. Gain understanding of multiple perspectives. Learn about a topic before you start slapping people with your opinion and always be listening to learn.

2. Adjust Your Posture

I am equally disappointed with both political extremes. Understand that the LGBTQ community is a group of people – not a political issue to be leveraged. Our priority should be to help these people. Both sides are leveraging ignorance for political gain.

3. Recognize Injustice

The LGBTQ community has been abused, persecuted, bullied, etc. While its gotten better. Some people are still being jerks. If you’re one of them, stop being a jerk. That doesn’t mean you have to jump on board with popular opinion, but for Christ’s sake (literally, not blasphemously), treat them like people, recognize that they have been mistreated and need God’s love just like the rest of us.

4. Stop Buying into the Political Talking Points

Understand that both parties and both extremes have agendas and are pushing those agendas. Neither side is listening to the other and no one is interested in compromise or admitting malfeasance. Politics and media thrive off of conflict. If they can keep you angry, frustrated, and fighting, they can keep your attention, viewership, and money.

5. Stop Debating Congenital Disposition (in the context of ethics)

It doesn’t matter (in the conversation of ethics). Ethically, just because something is natural doesn’t mean its good. From a scientific perspective, nature is often harmful – especially congenital nature. We are born with birth defects, disease, genetic deformities, etc. From a Christian perspective, sin is congenital. Ethically it doesn’t matter how people are born. *This does come into play when it comes to response once the ethics have been determined. Of course, that doesn’t automatically mean that LGBTQ issues are harmful or sinful. Some are certainly congenital, while other may not be, which brings me to my next point.

6. Recognize Complexity

While LGBTQ has been combined for the sake of constituency, understand that each “letter” comes with its own considerations, challenges, and eventually legislations. We have been duped into believing that we are either pro-gay or anti-gay. If you are pro-gay you have to support anything that is proposed by a loud enough voice within the LGBTQ community. If you are anti-gay you have to deny those same things. This is a false dichotomy. Don’t allow yourself to be pigeon-holed into some party platform. Look at each issue individually. Sociologically, this is incredibly difficult in practice because it requires you to transcend group think and “betray” your own group – thus creating the risk of being ostracized. Learn how to pivot beyond your party.

7. Get educated

There is so much to be considered. I will continue to post on this and other issues. You can subscribe to the blog on the right for future information. For now, here are a few thoughts on getting educated. For Christians, its important to understand theology – not just for ourselves, but also so that we rightly represent Christ. For example, study things like the affirming view of monogamous homosexuality. Be able to respond to these positions with love and truth. But above all, get your Gospel straight. Saying things like “God wouldn’t make a mistake” are theologically foolish. Here are two reasons. 1) Creation is not currently how God created it. He is not responsible for the broken nature of creation that followed the fall. 2) Think about what you are saying to people who identify as gay. I promise you, this is what they hear when you say that: “God made a mistake when he made you.” That’s not what the Bible teaches and you are misrepresenting both reality and God’s character to a people group that desperately needs God’s love and truth (we all do).

8. Recognize that we have no foundation upon which to build our ethical conversation. Start there.

See: Can You Be Good Without God?

9. You can’t legislate away sin

Whatever positions you arrive at regarding various ethical issues, understand that while legislation is necessary, legislation has its limitations. Legislation is designed to protect and promote society. Ultimately, however, what we need to do is introduce people to Christ. It’s the Holy Spirit that convicts of sin. We should still discuss these things, but no one owes you an answer for their actions. Only God can judge us – and He will – not just for our sexuality, but also for how we treat others based on their sexuality. Whatever you do, make sure you do it to the glory of God.

Bonus: Start a Dialogue

What do you think? Share with your friends to get their opinion. Please, remember to represent Christ in whatever you say though. Thank you!

9 Comments
  • Chuck Edwards
    Posted at 08:51h, 13 May Reply

    We should not let anyone that is guy have any leadership in the church but we should not say you can not come to church..The new testament tells us what to do as the church and if these people do not want obey Gods word then the church is told to remove them.That is not me but God Word.Pray for them..This is not a new thing but has been been as long as the be-gaining of the church .Paul has told us how to act as the church.To me it is wrong and it is sin but no bigger sin then any other. We need to pray for these people. Remember God made us not man These people do not need to run the church or have any office in the church..
    Brother Chuck Edwards

  • Trevor Howard
    Posted at 09:17h, 13 May Reply

    It was said once by a family friend; “Each of us has a cross to bear, and God judges us on how we carry that cross.” For LGBQ people, sexuality is that cross. Compassion is necessary when discussing the political, and social issues surrounding LGBQ.

    • Mallory Allred
      Posted at 04:14h, 15 May Reply

      Exactly! A sin is a sin. Temptations and desires are different for every individual. We have to remind ourselves not to judge simply because someone sins differently. We all have to face a battle.

      • admin
        Posted at 21:17h, 22 May Reply

        Yes’m. Mallory, you’re not related to Gabe are you?

        • Mallory Allred
          Posted at 09:29h, 02 September Reply

          I have no idea who Gabe is so I doubt it. You never know though. Lol.

  • Thaddeus McLaurin Sr
    Posted at 10:13h, 13 May Reply

    I agree that the situation is complex, but sin isn’t. We all have sinned and come short of His glory, as one has said there sin isn’t greater than our sins but they refuse to repent and that’s the problem. Moreover they want acceptance for their sins which I for one will not bring myself to. As far as the pulpit, that is the territory of God, for the Holy Spirit and His anointed vessels, whatever the Lord has for His people should be spoken by His messenger. Nothing should be watered-down or altered to pacify a specific group or individual. The good news is the Gospel and salvation is for everyone, but there is a price to be paid. We must die to ourselves, our own understanding, thoughts and emotions in order for Chist to live in us.

    • admin
      Posted at 08:52h, 14 May Reply

      I appreciate you comments, but I fear you have missed the point. The article is not suggesting to remain silent forever. The goal is to make sure that the message that we present, as Christ’s ambassadors, is accurate, compassionate, and strategic. My point is that the Church (the collective people, not the local organizations) is not producing good fruit in their response to LGBTQ issues. Most have about zero understanding on the issues (of which there are many) and then simply make blanket statements that come across as ignorant and hateful. The goal is, as individuals, to reevaluate our presentation before we do more harm in the name of Christ.

      I am not speaking of church pulpits by pastors so much as I am speaking of public discourse by the Body. I am well aware of the Gospel, but the point is that you can’t just lump all LGBTQ issues in one pot, call it sin, and tell people to change. Even if you determine that every single issue that falls under LGBTQ is sin (which I would wager would be incorrect), it still leaves the question, “How do you help them walk in freedom?” That answer is not a simple blanket statement. If our concern becomes for the people more than just being Christ’s police, then perhaps we will operate with greater accuracy and compassion.

  • Eve Sal
    Posted at 21:51h, 13 May Reply

    I agree with brother Thaddeus I’m not going to lie to a person about their sin and I’m not going to remain silent as government involves itself in religion matters… all things can be done in Love but to remain silent is bordering on double mindedness. …and is more codependent rather than compassionate

    • admin
      Posted at 08:47h, 14 May Reply

      I appreciate you comments, but I fear you have missed the point. The article is not suggesting to remain silent forever. The goal is to make sure that the message that we present, as Christ’s ambassadors, is accurate, compassionate, and strategic. My point is that the Church (the collective people, not the local organizations) is not producing good fruit in their response to LGBTQ issues. Most have about zero understanding on the issues (of which there are many) and then simply make blanket statements that come across as ignorant and hateful. The goal is, as individuals, to reevaluate our presentation before we do more harm in the name of Christ.

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