Never Lose an Argument Again

We have a bad concept of argumentation in our culture. The problem is that we want to win. We want to be right. More importantly, we never want to be wrong. You see, our goals are not rightly ordered. They are selfish- “I want to win. I want to be right.” They are prideful – “I never want to be wrong.” We are so afraid of failing that we live in denial of our inevitable failures, and therefore never learn from our mistakes and never grow.

A simple priority shift can ensure that 1) you never lose again and 2) you make a lasting contribution to the promotion of truth and the wellbeing of society. Rather than entering an argument with the intent of winning, enter a conversation with the intent of growing and helping others grow. (Notice the primacy of your own growth. Be willing to learn more than desiring that others learn.)

So here it is: Instead of arguing for victory, communicate for growth. Follow this simple step and you will never lose again. More importantly, you will grow exponentially and help others do the same!

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  • Barbara Price
    Posted at 06:49h, 17 June Reply

    Excellent!!! When I focus on serving God on behalf of someone (instead of the other way around)..I find myself yielding to Him through the conversation. When I take it upon my self to TRY and GET someone to hear what I have to say…I can feel myself pushing, so I stop, and yield back to His Spirit in me. I’m making it a lifestyle….I have to continually remind my carnal nature who’s in control!!

    • admin
      Posted at 07:06h, 17 June Reply

      Great word Barbara!

  • cstanford
    Posted at 07:10h, 17 June Reply

    I wish you would provide some real examples that illustrate how it works.

  • Carl Hultgren
    Posted at 09:27h, 23 June Reply

    If I know a conversation is coming, I pray first and ask to take ME out of it. Because if it’s NOT about me, then I won’t get offended or take it personal that you don’t agree with me. I KNOW that when I start to get defensive or take it personal then I am being selfish and self centered, not God Centered. It is NOT easy. through continued practice it gets easier.
    Thanks for your great articles

    • admin
      Posted at 09:47h, 23 June Reply

      Wonderfully put Carl!

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